To order products both with a mailing list and shipped directly to you, you will need to check out with two separate versions of the product.
First, customize your product with a mailing list and add it to your cart.
From your cart, duplicate the product by selecting the copy icon.
In the pop-up window, select Customize.
When asked if you will upload a mailing database, choose No. All customization options will remain available. Make any necessary updates and add the revised product to your cart.
At checkout, one item will be mailed via USPS to your selected mailing list, and the other will be shipped via FedEx to the address you provide.